Saturday, February 20, 2010

Blogging: Competitive and Challenging

   Ok, it's been quite some time since I've posted here and, for anyone that's still listening, I'd like to offer my apologies. I can't even offer an interesting reason as to why I've been remiss, it's just your basic everyday answer that life has kept me pretty busy.  Between school (I'm in my second year studying computer science) and several other little projects I just kind of put 'TheBornLoser' on the back burner.  When I first decided to create this blog one of my main motivations was the possibility of making it pay through advertising.  I did some research about that and learned about the placement of advertising on the blog pages. The idea of getting paid to write about things that are of interest to me...well heck, just getting paid to write about anything was/is a pretty exciting concept for me and that was it.  I found the place you go to buy a domain name (http://www.thebornloser.net/), bought it and then came over here to Blogger to sign myself up.  There were a few more steps than that but you get the idea and here I am.
     Well, as it turned out, writing and maintaining a successful blog is a lot more work than it sounds like.  And I can't even say that I didn't know what to expect.  Like I said, I performed my 'due diligence' before starting this project and everything I read stressed the fact that blogs, the successful ones, require dedication, talent, persistence, consistency, time and more time.  On top of all those ingredients it really helps if you're technically savvy.  I don't have the stats at my fingertips but the World-Wide-Web is host to millions upon millions of blogs and, if I remember correctly, something like a million new blogs are being born each day.  If you want to have any chance of your blog getting viewed by a bunch of strangers, it has to be a lot of things.  I mean it's one thing if you're writing about the daily goings-on in your life or about a subject that interests you with little regard to what interests anyone else. If that's the case then it isn't at all important that you know much more than how to open your blog and start typing.  Beyond that, all of those things I mentioned a few sentences back become essential and equally important. 
    If your intentions are to build an audience for your blog, whether you're doing it for profit, for a particular cause, for the glory of fame or any other reason, you have to realize that you are now competing with the bazillions of other bloggers trying to do that same thing.  Let's just say that you are a very talented writer and what you choose to write about is a very popular subject. Having that on your side is helpful but still probably isn't enough to draw an audience outside of friends, family and/or the occasional straggler who landed on your page by accident.  Without the technical know-how about programming, page design, HTML and the dozens of other aspects to building a web page your going to have a hard time getting noticed and if you can't break away from the pack it's doubtful you'll be able to build an audience.
     I realize that this sounds kind of discouraging but its the reality of blogging.  That said, although there are a few hills to climb, they are not insurmountable and in fact can be overcome by most people.  To be successful at this requires exactly the things I mentioned earlier in this post, perserverence, dedication, consistency, time and knowledge.  And the best part about it is that most of it is available online or within one's self.  Like I said, bazillions of people are doing it and millions are succeeding.  It's an exciting proposition if you ask me and, if you enjoy writing as much as I do, then the undertaking is well worth the investment.

Sunday, December 27, 2009

HAPPY HOLIDAYS EVERYBODY!

  My apologies for being absent over the past few weeks.  The Holidays have kept us quite busy however we plan to get back to work starting January 10, 2010.  Please check back then and I promise you'll agree the wait was worth it.  Lots of good stuff on it's way.  In the meantime, Happy Holidays and Best Wishes to you and yours.

                                                           Take Care,  The Born Loser

Monday, November 30, 2009

Finding Happiness When You Least Expect It






Good day everybody!  I want to start by acknowledging all the kind, encouraging emails and comments I received over the weekend.  The past few days have been rather manic and kept me away from the computer however most everything is back to normal again.




A few days ago I had an experience that felt like winning the lottery. I found a good friend who I've not spoken to in fifteen years. We first met when our paths crossed while was I living in Greenville, South Carolina.  We became fast friends and although our time together was brief it was of high quality and left an impression that has lasted a lifetime.   I've always regretted not pursuing her romantically when the opportunity was appropriate but, that aside, I feel fortunate to have shared a friendship with her. In fact she remains the standard by which I have compared most women I've ever known.  A southern girl, young, bright and charming. I remember that she was very quick, intelligent and had a wonderful sense of humor. She also possessed a warm, comfortable way about her that was insanely sexy.  So, over the years I've attempted to locate her on the internet.  Last Friday I  typed her name into the 'search' box on Facebook and BAM!, there she was and just as beautiful as I remembered. I sent her a brief message and she responded in the same way.  We then emailed each other, and without going in a lot of detail, she's happily married with a beautiful family, living a good life. For a split second I felt a twinge of envy for the lucky man that is her husband but just as quickly felt good to know that she is safe, secure and living a happy life. To top that off and put a broad smile on my face, she remembered me and the memories were good. Although the time for romance has long since past, we were friends first and I think that might actually be the reason that she was so special. My Christmas came early this year.

Life never ceases to amaze me. How some small event out of the blue can deliver little packages of happiness here and there. I was thinking whether or not to write about this because I try keep my stuff as interesting as possible to widest audience but then I thought, this is something that I'm sure everybody has experienced at one time or another and, if you haven't, you will. 

And now for those of you that don't give a rat's patoot about matters of the heart...

Based on the happy incident mentioned in the above paragraphs it got me thinking about all the different social network sites out there. I didn't really know if this would be a subject that would garner any attention, especially considering that I was writing about a personal experience. One goal of this blog is to cultivate a large and loyal following but, because this is all new to me, it's very 'hit and miss' as to what topics draw people to this page. To help with that I use a software program that provides general feedback about the number of visitors to this blog, what's gets read and what doesn't. Just as an example, I posted an article about how the state of Illinois deals with unemployment benefits in a fairly obscure circumstance. The report showed that more people from England were reading it than from the state of Illinois. I had to ask myself why in the world would all of these people who have no obvious connection to the subject be so interested in it. But back to the subject of social networks. I was thinking that not that long ago a social network was something that rich people were involved in and perhaps business-people. One thing that is was not, was a highly popular form of entertainment for the masses like MySpace, Facebook, Twitter and Classmates.com



About a year and a half ago I had decided to sign onto Facebook to see what all the hub-bub was about. Until curiousity finally got the better of me I hadn't given that website a second thought. I guess at that point in time Facebook was reaching a fever pitch with the general-computer-using-public because I was seeing and hearing about it everywhere. On the news, in print media and it was a regular topic of conversation wherever I went. People were checking their Facebook pages the same way people used to call their friends to see what was new. At that time I had been a member of MySpace, Twitter and StumbleUpon for quite a while. In fact, StumbleUpon remains one of my favorite websites to this day. For those of you that haven't had the opportunity to experience it, I have to warn you, it is EXTREMELY ADDICTING but definitely worth it.


I don't want to get into a long description about SU(StumbleUpon) but since I've brought it up I would feel remiss by not heartily recommending it and giving you some kind of idea of what it's all about. SU integrates peer-to-peer and social networking principles with one click blogging to continually refine and present you with webpages based on your likes and dislikes. It's totally free and will take you to websites that are nothing less than amazing and then, if you choose to do so, save them to a file for later use. The best part is that you get to decide what kind of websites it shows you and the more you use it, the better it gets at choosing the type of things you like to see. It's really hard to explain, you have to experience it to see what I mean. Just remember when you find yourself clicking away at three o'clock in the morning that I warned you. As far as MySpace and Twitter, well, you'd have to be living in a cave not to have heard about those two

I think MySpace gave me my first experience with what social networking was all about and I can honestly say it was a positive experience. Wow, that was such a long time ago but I remember that once the novelty wore off, I never looked back. Maybe it was because I wasn't really socially active, not in that arena anyways. The thing about MySpace that stands out is that it was the first of it's kind that reached that level of popularity and it allowed you to reach people in a controlled manner. Giving you the option of sharing specific personal content with a select group of people or just one person. Not only that but it touched every social and generational demographic. I also think it helped introduce the internet to a whole generation that considered themselves too old or "computer illiterate" and that otherwise felt left behind by the technology that drives the internet. Also it was so easy to get a handle on. I referenced some recent stats for the purpose of comparing MySpace and Facebook in terms of popularity. Facebook is by far the leader however MySpace has retained a loyal following and holds a respectable share of the internet's available users. (Did you know that 87% of all statistics are made up on the fly?)

Twitter, as it turns out, is something that I've been using since 2004 which was well before most people knew it existed. I still use it today but not in a conventional way. I post movie trivia a few times a week on Twitter and, in fact, you can see my most recent posts just to the right of this post.
When I first started doing it, it was mainly something I did for kicks and the three or four people that I was connected with on Twitter. We all enjoy that kind of thing and I had fun searching for the information. The funny thing is that its really gotten popular over time and now I've got more than three thousand followers. Feel free to hit the link here and go visit it. If you enjoy movie trivia you can look at all of the past posts (over 700) of juicy one line tidbits about movies, past and present. But the way that I use it isn't really what it was intended for. Some refer to Twitter as a "Micro-Blog" because the average post is limited to 140 characters or less. That equates to about a sentence and a half depending on how you write. It serves the same purpose as the conventional blog but instead of posts being several paragraphs or pages long, a person's information is served up in bite size quantities. People connect with their friends and then they can post little tidbits about thier day, for example "I'm driving to the club", "Wow, just had dinner at McDonalds, it was awful", "I just saw the most awsome movie". Those posts stay 'posted' in kind of a list on that particular person's Twitter page. If you are connected as a friend to that person you can visit that page anytime you want to read what is there. You also have the option to comment on those posts just as you can in a regular blog. There are a lot of variations of how people use Twitter and recently businesses have gotten into the act by posting special pricing, sales or the intro of a new product. In addition to this there are what seems like an infinite number of applications developed to work along side Twitter. This is another example of social networking that, if you haven't taken the time to investigate, I recommend that you do. Just so you know I've included links for everything right here so that you can take a peek if you want.


Anyways, I'm going to wrap this up, I just wanted to share a happy experience I had the past couple of days and how social networking sites can make that kind of thing happen

As always, I thank you for stopping by and hope you continue to do so.  Feel free to leave comments, advice or criticism.  Best wishes to you and I hope this finds you well.  Take care........

thebornloser























Wednesday, November 25, 2009

A Very Nice Wedding Speech

A while back I got a lot of positive feedback for a series of humorous wedding photos I posted and so I've spend the past couple of evenings looking for more of the same. During my search I came across this Youtube video that really stood out. Although there's nothing funny about it, a heartfelt speech from the groom to his parents, in-laws, bride and wedding party. I thought it pretty special and hope that you might enjoy it as well.




Monday, November 23, 2009

THIS IS ONE FUNNY VIDEO OF A VERY FUNNY MAN

Here's another pretty good video. There are some that can bring a smile to my face while others really get me laughing. The acid test is if I'm alone and still get one of those belly laughs. The thing with this one was that I couldn't tell if this guy was for real or if it was all a set up. I'm guessing that it was all legit. You make the call.

Beating Health Care Reform to Death



Ok everybody, by a show of hands, how many of you have had it up to here (I'm holding my outstretched hand level with my eyebrows...eyebrow actually 'cause I've got that monobrow thing going on) anyways, who's sick and tired of all this stuff going on with health care reform?  I'm not saying it isn't an important issue but Holy Cow, enough already!!  Let's get this thing handled.


I got up early this morning because I'm in the midst of a job hunt and had an interview scheduled in the city.  Equipped with coffee and map I hopped into the car and headed towards the expressway.  When I got onto the main road I switched on the radio which was set to NPR(National Public Radio) and what do you think the topic being discussed was?  You got it, health care reform.  Now, like I said a second ago, I understand the importance of this issue.  In fact, because I'm quickly approaching the age of 50, health insurance and the details thereof are extremely relevant to me.  Just the other day my young and loving son poked his forefinger into my growing belly making unnecessary comments about my slight gain in weight and the health implications along with it.  That said, it was six fifteen in the morning and my hair wasn't even awake yet.  At that hour of the morning I have the comprehension skills of a small rock and probably shouldn't be behind the wheel of anything more powerful than a stroller.  And because the discussion on the radio sounded like nothing more than gibberish, I switched the channel to the next preset which happened to be WLS AM radio. 



If you haven't picked up that I live near the city of Chicago, I do and WLS used to be huge around here.  It's still pretty big but to a different audience and to a lesser extent.  As a matter of fact they call themselves the "50,000 Watt Blowtorch" referring to the power behind their transmitter. So powerful in fact that they are capable of transmitting a clear signal as far away as Florida to the south and Arizona to the west. WLS was the 'top 40s' station for pop music back when I was a kid however it changed it's format to conservative 'talk radio' in 1989 and has remained that way ever since.  Now they carry syndicated shows with the likes of Rush Limbaugh, Sean Hannity and other high profile conservative talk show hosts.  The call letters stand for "World's Largest Store" because it was owned by Sears Roebuck but it's since been sold to some other corporate behemoth.  I used to listen to them exclusively well into the years of their talk format but unfortunately they've gotten so commercialized that I just couldn't handle the lack of content.  I mean for every hour they broadcast, forty minutes are eaten up with commercials and other fillers.  On a good day you might get to listen to the host for seven minutes before being interrupted for five minutes of ads followed by another thirty seconds of them blasting their call letters at you.  Tie a bow on that with a weather or traffic report and you find that you've just sat through eight minutes of useless noise before the cycle repeats itself.  Odds are, if you tune into that station, the first thing you'll hear is a commercial.  But hey...they're obviously successful so God Bless and keep on truckin' but those are the reasons I usually listen to NPR.  NPR gets much of its money from grants, donations and fund raising which allows them to keep commercial advertising to a minimum.  In spite of the above rant I flipped over to WLS but like NPR, the topic of discussion were the latest developments in health care reform.

I guess it would've been easy enough to have opted for music but for reasons I don't even understand, I wanted to listen to somebody talking just as long as it wasn't about health care reform(I could also do without those ads for male enhancements).  No more health care talk, Not now or not ever would be even better but probably as likely as getting to skip seeing my neighbor picking up his pets droppings in my lawn.  And so I decided to tune into this next station( it isn't one of my presets) because I never want to accidently end up on this one.  It's called Air America, goes by the call letters WCPT AM and it's the politcally left's answer to conservative talk radio. 

I figured that as long as I wanted to listen to talk radio and chances were good that whatever station I chose would be discussing health care reform, I might as well listen to a different point of view than what I've been hearing. Air America is populated with a handful of Democratic rabble rousers and, if nothing else, have some interesting perspectives which they freely share.  Each one of the above named radio stations are quite a bit different from each other and if you had the time or interest to listen to one after the other, my point would be made clear.  From my perspective their political biases go like this:

WLS

  • Republicanism


  • Conservatism


  • Politically right (not necessarily right as in correct but a term to describe a political viewpoint)

NPR

    They have been described at one time or another as favoring both sides of the fence.  I'm of the opinion that their opinions are slanted more to the left which equates to a more Liberal viewpoint however after doing a bit of reading and listening I can see how some might call them centered.  So I'm putting them in the middle.

Air America (WCPT AM)

  • Democratic


  • Liberalism


  • Politcally Left



Now I realize that I'm way out of my intellectual league here and what I'm about to say may be way out in "right" field but this is what I do.  My understanding about what the right wingers(Republicans), are all about is basically smaller government.  Less government intervention, more reliance on ourselves as individuals, the free market and free enterprise to sort everything out.  They believe that, left to it's own devices, the free enterprise system is the embodiment of freedom and if the government would let it run on it's own merits, this country and it's people would be a lot better off.(and just by the way, I kind of go along with this line of thought)

On the other side of the coin, you've got the Democrats and Liberalism.  From what I can tell they believe in a government by the people, for the people.  They see the government as a vehicle to serve its people in ways that might be too difficult for the individual to accomplish on their own and that, if we serve the government, the government will be better able to serve the society that built it.

Without getting too deep here, I think both sides have their good points. Personally I think I've got a better shot at success when I'm allowed to make my own decisions without the government's involvement and so I guess that means I lean more to the right.  It just seems that whenever the government gets involved in anything except perhaps the military, things usually get more expensive and complicated...and slow.  I don't think the powers-that-be intended for this to happen.  One thing is for sure though; when you're dealing with anything on such a large scale it's almost always bound to be cumbersome and inefficient.  Which brings me back to the topic of health care reform.

This issue has been going on non-stop, ad nauseum, almost since President Obama's first day in office.  The House, the Senate, insurance companies, their lawyers, lobbiests, the Vatican, talk show hosts, millions of others and now me have been riding this pony and beating the crap out of it ever since.  I guess, putting my personal feelings aside, it's a good thing that the issue of how we're going to pay for our health care is moving as slowly as it is.  It's a big deal, maybe one of the biggest and it effects you, me and everyone in between from now until who knows.  I guess it deserves, the attention it's garnering.  If you think about it, this is probably exactly what the boys had in mind when they drew up the Constitution.  Checks and balances, the ying and the yang and all the rest of that happy junk.  It's our government and the two party system fighting it out right under our noses.  Do you think this what they call 'transparency'?  Probably not but it's in the ball park.

As for me..I guess I'll just have to find another form of entertainment because I can't take much more. Maybe I'll give writing a shot.

As always, thanks for stopping by. Please feel free to leave you thoughts and criticisms.  I always look forward to hearing from you.  In the meantime best wishes and good luck with your life's pursuits.  I hope this finds you well.

The Born Loser